Resources
Dating insights
Longer pieces for anyone looking for a serious relationship: how the apps make their money, why Kindred is built the way it is, and what it refuses to claim.
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Why Is Dating in Toronto So Hard? Every First Date Costs an Evening
The apps assume a first date is cheap. In Toronto, one costs a commute, a restaurant and a circle of friends you may not have yet.
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Love Is Blind but Dating Apps Want a Headshot
Can conversation change who you find attractive? What Love Is Blind gets right about dating without photos, and what the reveal still has to settle.
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Dating after 40, as explained by people who were 31
Every article about dating after 40 cites the same study, skips the most useful number in the data, and arrives at a suggestion to update your photos.
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Why being bisexual doesn't double your dating options
Being bisexual was supposed to double your options. It doesn't. Here's what the research shows, and what to check in any dating app.
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Dating When You Have More Kids Than Free Evenings
Your free evenings are few and hard to predict, and mainstream dating apps are built to reward constant presence. What one study of single parents found about how they actually make the time, why the most quoted figure about them is misread, and what a finite, paid-once service changes.
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No Spark on a First Date? Can Attraction Grow?
A first-date spark is useful information, not a scientific verdict. What the research can and cannot tell you about a quiet start, a second date, and whether attraction shows up late.
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The major dating apps, compared honestly, by the one that makes no money when you stay
A side-by-side comparison of Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, eHarmony, Grindr and Feeld: what each one is genuinely good at, what it costs, and the single test that sorts them, whether its most expensive tier sells visibility or matching. Written by the not-for-profit that earns the same whether you stay single or leave paired off.
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"Am I too picky?" Research on Dating Dealbreakers
Most of what you call a dealbreaker is a preference, and preferences bend once a real person is attached to them. How to tell a genuine dealbreaker from a preference, why one on its own is rarely enough to end things, and how the apps train you toward saying no.
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Why your dating app does not want you to leave
A dating platform funded by subscriptions earns more the longer its members stay single. What the industry's own financial filings show, the strongest arguments against reading them that way, and what charging once changes.
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